“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Are you currently in love with someone?
That term has always bugged me, “in love”. What does that even mean? Am I in love with my husband or do I love my husband? What’s the difference you ask? Saying I am in love with my husband insinuates that I can also be out of love with my husband. Falling in… falling out. Not my idea of love at all. You either love someone or you don’t. I realize I may ruffle some feathers here but lets get real. How many times have you been in love with someone and then a few months later NOT so in love? Was that really love? I ask the question because I believe our culture; the world around us has so shaped our thoughts that we don’t even realize when we are having a thought that is completely unbiblical. It’s a heavy topic… you say… well I will ALWAYS love that person. I get the argument. My view is just that a whole lot of times in a whole lot of circumstances we jump to using the word love when really were talking about a fatal attraction, selfish fulfillment, lust, short and sweet and to the point… not love.
Love is not the feeling of unruly emotions, butterflies and fantasy. Love does not come and go. Love is not here one moment and gone the next… not true love.
After all love is… you ready… a choice. It is a choice to be patient and kind. A choice to not be jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It is a choice not to demand your own way. It is a choice not to be irritable. It is a choice to keep no record of being wronged. It is a choice not to rejoice about injustice but a choice to rejoice whenever the truth wins out. It is a choice to never give up and never lose faith. It is a choice to always be hopeful and endure through every circumstance.
And one day when you are choosing to love someone… you will look up and realize that as a result of your true love you might actually have some uncontrollable emotions, some butterflies and a whole future to plan.
Do I contradict myself? I think not. Love is a choice and as a result of your choice you will find a feeling… a really good one. But I ask you keep in mind that love itself is not the feeling that comes as a result of love. Love is the selfless act of choosing someone and making them a priority, even if that means sacrificing yourself, including your emotion, your pride, your way, and your sense of justice. To love you must continue to never give up, never lose faith, and always be hopeful while enduring through anything and everything that comes your way.
That is the way, after all, that Jesus loves you and me. And that is the way I hope to love Him in return and everyone else He places in my life here on this earth.